This is a cool service for young unattached urbanites! Go try it and report back your sociological observations!
Welcome to Crazy Blind Date! We like to keep things simple. That’s why on very short notice we can set you up on quick dates with total strangers at public places like bars and coffee shops. You’re not allowed to see their picture or even communicate. Choose your city.
Crazy Blind Date is a place where you can coordinate a date on extremely short notice. Online dating sites are cool (we also run OkCupid.com), but sometimes you just want to go out immediately, with reckless abandon. We understand it’s not for everyone, but it is for social, outgoing, and adventurous people. Oh, and it’s completely free.
When you agree to a date, you’ll get to see a description of your match. If you still can’t find each other amongst all the other nervous-looking people at that bar or coffee shop, quack like a dog and make armpit farts. If that doesn’t work, you can send each other text messages through us. In the final 30 minutes before the date, we open a relay. If you send a text message to CUPID (28743) it will go to your date’s phone. For example: “I’m at the bar in the back, wearing a blue sweater, drinking a martini.”
A date request is not a commitment. If we find someone for you, we’ll show you a brief summary and a super blurry picture. At that point you have to say yes or no. A yes is binding.
- Show up. If you commit to a date, not showing up is beyond unacceptable and being late is mean. Remember: crazyblinddate is a website, but your actual blind date is a real person.
- A date is a short commitment, only. Be understanding if someone wants to leave after 30 minutes. On the other hand, even if there’s no chemistry, stick around for at least 20 minutes (less is rude) and be nice.
- Never lie in your description or personal information.. People have very little to go on, when making a date decision, so be honest about your age, height, body type, etc. You won’t last long on Crazy Blind Date if people suspect you’re not honest and say so on the Date Feedback Form.
You only have an obligation of 20 minutes, so get to know them. Plus, after each date we get feedback about personality and attractiveness. What they have to say about you determines a lot about your next date. Our matching system isn’t public, but in case this isn’t obvious: if someone says you’re extremely nice and attractive, it does wonders for getting you assigned to other nice and attractive people.
The more dates you go on, the better each assignment is.
I am reminded by this because of the last post on blog anonymity, and how we were talking about the very strong norm that bloggers have of protecting pseudonymous blogger’s anonymity. It’s not a rule, of course. But it does have swift repercussions in the form of reputational damage. If you accidentally “come out” at a blog meet up, no problem–what’s said in the room stays in the room, and the person who accidentally says “hey, Belle!” won’t be unduly punished when I have a name tag identifying myself as ______. But some person with an axe to grind who finds out my real identity and then publicly outs me on a blog without my permission–I am sure that even those who agree with his opinion of me would decry that behavior as violating a norm. Even those who don’t really believe in pseudonymity for the principled reasons that authors must publicly own their words would be hard pressed to justify outing another blogger, and would probably buckle under the barrage of critique and norm enforcement.
But look, here is more sociology in real life! This just came out a couple of months ago. Everyone knows the norm about not standing up a date. Here, I am sure, is a way to enforce that norm publicly through ratings, reviews, and public shaming. The administrators of Crazy Blind Date might have a way of blocking certain user accounts if those users are chronic renegers. Norms aren’t the same as rules, but they can have similar effects in enforcement: retribution, ostracization, outlawry. Basic rules are the same as those in the blogosphere: Don’t be a jerk. Don’t do bad, illegal things. Play it safe. Of course, the biggest rule is “don’t stand people up,” and it’s interesting that they use the term “binding,” which sounds very legal, as if to stand someone up were tantamount to reneging on a contract that may be enforced in court. This is like Ewick and Silbey’s The Common Law of Everyday Life!
I think Crazy Blind Date sounds awesome and intersting, and were I not happily attached, that would be a totally interesting thing to do on a boring Friday night for personal and sociological reasons. On Unfogged, some of the commenters went on the dates–they went OK! Nothing terrifying, and less time investment than normal online dating would entail, what with all the profile perusal and endless back-and-forth emailing before the first real date. Most impressions aren’t really formed until the date anyway, and good email does not mean good date. So why not cut to the chase and interact in real life right away, even if you don’t have information about whether the other person likes puppies and wants children “someday”? People show up, have a date, have something to do on a Friday night, and either keep dating or go home, having had a social interaction they might not have otherwise had. It’s an interesting process, even if it does not result in anything. So go out and go on the dates, and report back to Scatterplot your sociological observations! (I’m kidding of course. Or am I.)
What I really want is for these experiences to be documented by sociologists. The social psychology of the first date must be interesting. Also, since sociologists claim to be so socially awkward, they’d probably learn something.