This post needs to make a reference to oral sex and you’ll just have to get over it. There’s this song, “The Chelsea Hotel Oral Sex Song,” by Jeffrey Lewis. (There. That was it.)
In the song, Lewis starts up a conversation on the street with a woman he finds appealing. They have a fun conversation, but then he lets her leave without asking for her number. He walks down the same street many times later hoping to run into her again, but it’s New York and so of course he doesn’t. He writes a song about it in which he acknowledges that one might think it’s pathetic that he doesn’t ask a woman out but then writes a whole song about her. He says, “But, wait, actually that’s a wonderful thing.” Because:
Next time you’re feeling kind of lonesome or blue.
Just think that someone out there, might be singing about you.
Which brings us to a post I wrote while back about another blog that seemed to have an unusual preoccupation with Scatterplot—links in 3 of its first 5 posts. (To honor its proprietor’s clear preference for discretion, I won’t link to it here.) The proprietor took the blog down after my post—he didn’t know that WordPress lists incoming links and blog authors commonly read posts that link to them—and started in a new location. But the author said in his re-inaugural post that taking down the first blog was overdrastic, and he linked to Scatterplot with an acknowledgment that, by providing the link, I could see that I hadn’t doused his esprit d’blog. I subscribed to read it on Bloglines.
The blog is still quite preoccupied with Scatterplot—links/references in 5 out of its last 6 posts.* If you take out the post by Olderwoman that was picked up by CT and Metafilter, a third of the incoming links since we’ve started have come from this one blog.
I’ve commented on several posts. Nothing boorish, I’d thought, or even unbemused. I think I still might be regarded as a bit of a troll, though—can you be a troll on a blog that is significantly about you?—as the proprietor is now talking about making his blog private or otherwise hiding it so that those who are linked won’t be able to read it. I could offer to just quit reading—although you try seeing an incoming link that’s likely about you and not clicking on it—but some others from Scatterplot and Orgtheory have followed the incoming links as well.
Moreover: I have to confess that first I was unsettled by the existence of another blog that was preoccupied with Scatterplot, but then, well, the whole sociology celebrity thing is a little corrupting. When I see in Bloglines that this blog has updated and the post is not at all about Scatterplot, I’m disappointed. Not flattering to admit, but there it is.
Then I realized that if the blog goes private, I can imagine that whenever I post it might be talking about me. Then—even better—I realized that because the only reason I know about this blog in the first place is that its proprietor didn’t know about incoming links, there could already be other(s!) out there posting regularly about Scatterplot. Next time you’re feeling kind of lonesome or blue, just think: someone out there, might be blogging about you.
* Just to be clear: if anything, I’ve come to like and respect the proprietor over the course of reading various posts, and I don’t harbor any illusions that he or other participants on his blog are actually obsessed with us.