Well, I’m inspired. All the workflow gurus agree that setting a reasonable, actionable goal, logging your progress, and giving yourself incentives to follow it are the keys to resolution success. My prediction is that Jeremy is well on his way to fitness. I would also like to be fit, and so I considered following along.
And then it hit me. I would be donating so much money to Really Bad Thing at the end of 2008. And, worse yet, it would be coming out of Kid’s college fund. Why? Because my problem is not one of willpower. I don’t have a lot of willpower, but still, that is not the main thing keeping me from exercising regularly. My problem is scarcity of a) time and b) energy. My year has periods when things are going well, during which I exercise often enough, and then other, absolutely crazy periods, when I am totally overwhelmed by the work I have to do, all my good habits fall to the wayside, and it takes me weeks to get back to my routine.
During these crazy times, all of the Really Bad Things I might donate money to would never buy me an extra half-hour in the day. When it comes down to, “okay, I can either pick up Kid from school on time, or I can jog to avoid paying $25 to Baby Seal Clubbers of Nova Scotia,” the seal beaters are going to win every time.
So, for me, I’m resolving to make 2008 the Year of Delegation. I need to do less, and that’s exactly what I intend to do. To wit, I resolve to:
- hire a dog walker*
- hire a person to clean the house weekly or biweekly
- research and hire a virtual assistant for Husband (if you have recommendations, hit me)**
- find out if there are grocery and dry cleaning delivery options in our area
- set up a regular babysitting night, weekly or biweekly
- research a daycare option for Kid in the summer, when preschool is out
I know that I’m lucky that I can afford all this paid support. I know. But affording and delegating are two different things, and something seems to have been getting in my way of the latter for the last year or so (one big thing, ironically, was that I didn’t have the time to do it). If I can take care of these timesucks, I will more often be in the sort of space where I can get some exercise. I will be less frustrated in general, and I will be less resentful of Husband, who does far less around the house than I.
In keeping with Jeremy’s program of disincentives, if I fail to complete all six of these delegatory tasks by the ASA, I vow to attend the ASA Business Meeting and make an announcement that Orgtheory is the best sociology blog on the planet.
I’ll let you know how it goes.
*This week, walking Dog twice a day, with Kid, in -14C weather over ice, snow, and clear sidewalk (a combination that rules out both stroller and toboggan) has me convinced that this will benefit me, Kid and Dog greatly.
**You might be thinking, “Why don’t you let Husband get his own virtual assistant?” or “How will this save you time or energy?” Good questions. The thing is, Husband works 70-80 hours a week, and travels for work about one out of every six weeks. Wish as I might, he will not get his own assistant, but I’m sure he’ll use one if I set it up for him. If I can do something to get his expense reports turned in on time, it will save me much stress and money, and if I can save him an hour of work each week, that’s an hour he can pitch in around the house or hang out with Kid and me.
You may also think his employer should provide this administrative support, and on that point I would agree with you. That and a loonie will get me a coffee at Tim Hortons.

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There you go. You are right on. But try to delegate to someone else the task of finding a virtual assistant. And maybe the tasks of finding dog walkers, cleaning & delivery services, etc.
Sounds like a good plan. But I agree with OW, I’d delegate some of this. Isn’t this the typical household division of labor: wife has to deal with all the logistics of finding help? I understand that your husband works a lot, but I can’t imagine that you’re putting in less than 70-80 hrs yourself between your full time job and childcare.
FYI re delegation, I was thinking of hiring a student to research the information parts of this. “Delegating” to a spouse is a little more complicated. Not saying spouses don’t do work or should not do work, but something a person isn’t doing anyway is not likely to get done just because you announce you are “delegating” to them. It is different if the spouse volunteers to take on a job. Otherwise, it is a cleaner interpersonal process to pay someone, if it isn’t too hard to find someone to pay. Obviously, if you don’t have any immediate candidates for the “find information” post, then it is easier/faster to do it yourself and get it over with.
If you don’t break your resolution will you attend the ASA business meeting and announce that Scatterplot is the best sociology blog on the planet?
OW: What a great idea! You can see how I am not so good at the delegating thing. And you are also right on about delegating to Husband. Feeling like I shouldn’t have to be responsible for nearly everything is one of the reasons why these things haven’t been settled yet. Husband feels it should be more equal, too. We can beat ourselves up for being bad feminists, but that won’t solve anything. If a system is put in place, my life will be much better, and the resentment over the domestic labor squeeze will abate. Maybe not the ideal gender equality solution, but my life will be better, and I can live with that.
Brayden: No, but I will announce it very loudly at the bloggerly drink, right after the Orgtheory vs. Scatterplot thumb wrestling contest (you’re going down!)
Great resolutions! I have long wished there was grocery delivery in my town. We do have something called Dinner by Design, where people will make your dinners for you (all natural ingredients, etc.), and package them up for freezing. You just have to pop them in the oven. Tasty, cheap, and easy.
Ok so yes I am also cute and smart but at different computers it logs me in different ways — so I am in on the Jeremy exercise plan and if I thought it was going to come out of my kids’ college funds I never would have signed up. But it is going to come out of my tv watching and scrabble playing (BTW — anyone play scrabble at isc.ro besides the obvious suspects?).
Yesterday my exercise was to walk/run up and down stairs while my kid was in his tutoring. I am going to get this exercise in unconventional ways.
And, isn’t walking the dog exercise?
QI/C&S: Clearly, you have never walked a dog and a 3.5-year-old at the same time. :)